Among the female owners of the popular TV series "only Thirty", the most perfect one is Gu Jia. .
Gu Jia graduated from a famous school with good appearance, good values, EQ and IQ online. She not only takes good care of her family, but also helps her husband run a fireworks company. Later, she set up her own business in a tea factory under Panxia.
This is the kind of perfect wife that men dream of.
Gu Jia's husband, Xu Fengshan, is an excellent fireworks designer. Gu Jia never conceals his appreciation for her husband's talent. Xu Fengshan's fight with clients led the company into trouble. Gu Jia only comforted her husband and did not say a word of no to him. When Gu Jia won a large order for the company through his wife's circle, he never asked for credit from her husband, let alone strongly controlled him. & hellip;…
It can be said that in marriage, Gu Jia's attitude towards her husband is appreciation, respect and tolerance, and in practical work, he also gives him great help.
However, with such a perfect wife, Xu Fengshan had an affair! Is that why? is it just because "it's a mistake that men make"? .
Of course not!
Xu Fengshan's psychology is very immature:
He would quarrel with clients because his design was not respected, regardless of the life or death of the company; he would fight for the venue while playing football, resulting in injuries in his face, and even forgot to go to Beijing on business the next day; Gu Jia, in order to win an order for the company, needed to buy a brand-name bag to gain a foothold in his wife's circle. Xu Fengshan not only did not support it, but also mocked her & hellip;&hellip.
In the face of such a psychologically immature husband, she tolerated all his capriciousness and tried her best to pay for some of his misdeeds and clean up the aftermath.
She acts as a "mother", not a wife. Under her care and care, Xu Fengshan is still a big boy psychologically.
Lin you saw Xu Xiangshan's immaturity, and under her seduction, the big boy who lived in his heart was ready to move. .
She succeeded in arousing all kinds of hidden desires in his heart and betrayed Gu Jia. .
Mother-son marriages like Gu Jia and Xu Fengshan are not uncommon in our lives.
Wen Hong is the sales director of a foreign company, extroverted and cheerful, doing things like wind and fire, never dragging his feet.
Her husband Zhiwei's personality is quite different from hers. Zhiwei is engaged in technical work in the IT industry, introverted personality, does not like to communicate with people, in addition to playing mobile games, there are no other hobbies.
They met on a blind date, considering that Zhiwei is a very reliable man, and his shortcomings are his own advantages. As long as he takes more care of himself, life should not be sad. Wen Hong married him.
Not long after marriage, Wen Hong became pregnant, resigned and became a full-time wife at home.
Zhiwei was not good at housework, and Wen Hong was also distressed by his hard work, so he did most of the housework. After a long time, Zhiwei became more lazy to do housework. Even if Wen Hong is very busy, he seldom puts down his phone and shares some for his wife.
Zhiwei is not good at communicating with people, so, as big as to buy a house, as small as to call to urge express delivery, as long as it is to deal with people, everything is handled by Wen Hong.
Introverts tend to be sensitive inside. Zhiwei often sulks because of a casual remark from his boss or colleague. At this time, Wen Hong acts as a bosom sister, encouraging him and relieving him.
Wen Hong likes outdoor sports. Every time Zhiwei is invited to climb the mountain, Zhiwei is not happy, and Wen Hong does not force him to go there alone with his son.
In the first three years after marriage, although Wen Hong felt a little depressed and tired, there was nothing wrong with thinking about her husband, so patience passed. Until his son went to kindergarten, Wen Hong returned to work, helping both family and work, while Zhiwei could hardly help. Wen Hong was physically and mentally exhausted and extremely disappointed in Zhiwei and marriage.
One night, Wen Hong worked overtime to 10:00. When he got home, he found his son had a terrible fever. She hurriedly asked Zhiwei to take her son to the hospital, but Zhiwei, who was playing mobile games, turned a deaf ear and did not even respond.
The grievance that Wen Hong had accumulated for many years was suddenly detonated at that moment. She snatched Zhiwei's mobile phone and smashed it on the ground. Zhiwei slapped Wen Hong in the face and slammed the door. Then he didn't go home for a few days, nor did he ask about his son's illness.
Wen Hong was awakened by Zhiwei's slap and decisively divorced him.
After the divorce, Wen Hong reflected on his biggest mistake in this marriage, that is, he was too tolerant of Zhiwei.
In order to manage the marriage well and adapt to Zhiwei's personality, she tried to make herself more magnanimous and diligent.
However, she forgot to ask Zhiwei to grow up with her. She has been blindly accommodating for a long time, gradually turning herself into a "mother".
Zhiwei, on the other hand, gradually degenerated into an ignorant "son".
However, husband and wife are not mother and son after all, especially when the family encounters difficulties, they need to fight side by side.
Obviously, the "son" cannot perform the duties of husband and father, and the imbalance between husband and wife will eventually lead to a breakdown.
So, how can we avoid the formation of mother-child marriage?
First, give your partner a chance to grow up, not an arranged replacement.
The wife is advised not to do everything for her husband; listen to him, understand him, and support him emotionally when he makes a mistake, but it's best not to clean up his mess like his mother. If he is not given the chance to make mistakes and bear the burden, the "son" will never grow up.