Key words: I need a long-term and stable lover.
Q: my single-parent family is 33 years old. My father died early. I didn't have sense of security since I was a child. I work in public institutions and earn less, about 2000 yuan a month.
I worked hard for my career when I was young, and later I used up my health very poorly, so I found such an easy job by my mother. It was only recently that I realized that I needed a long-term and stable lover.
The man is an excellent man, 39 years old, engaged in information technology, belongs to secret work, has won numerous honors, but his personality is somewhat unsociable.
He said that he never liked to play poker with other colleagues and was so serious at work that his disciples were afraid to see him. He said he was under a lot of pressure at work and often needed masturbation to vent.
We met through the babysitter who worked at his uncle's house. the introducer said that he was delayed because of his work and could not speak very well. He was a dull man and a very nice person. His uncle often scolds him, and he never talks back.
We have not met, but because the introducer is very familiar, so there is no feeling of online dating, but also very serious into it.
He was gentle, quiet and considerate at first. But he wasn't happy when I replied late to the message.
We are also developing rapidly, and he asked me to help him masturbate after just knowing each other for more than a month. Because of his 100% trust and love, he cooperated.
However, I don't like this kind of sexual relationship very much. I am an extremely conservative person. After that, he found one reason or another not to cooperate with him any more.
Then, suddenly one day he stopped replying to my message. For three days in a row, when I saw the video of him teasing the dog in his circle of friends, I was furious and lost my mind. I urged him to break up. He should also be looking for an excuse. I stepped down for him.
Later, he came to me again and said stop messing around. I really liked him, so I got back together.
But just two days after getting back together, his uncle scolded him severely because of our previous breakup. I quickly comforted him after I knew it, because I didn't see the change in his mood because it was typing. .
Cold love reply:
In this story, two flowers bloom, one for each.
On the one hand, this boy, in the face of his uncle's frequent abuse, he never talks back and is gentle in front of others, but on the other hand, in private, he needs a way of self-release.
Perhaps, this boy has not been married, or even does not want to enter a real relationship, many of his relationships only exist on the Internet, on the phone, because he knows that such a relationship will not hurt him.
He was unable to resist his uncle's network of relationships with him, but he could at least protect himself from further out-of-control reality, which was one of his confrontations.
Only when we understand his confrontation can we understand what he has done.
There is no doubt that the man is a poor man, and of course he is hateful.
If such a man can not achieve self-growth, no one can save him.
On the other hand, this girl is also a radish and a pit.
If it were not for such a man, he might not have met such a girl.
If it hadn't been for such a girl, the man might not have made such a typical disclaimer, "We can't be together. I can't hurt you."
More interestingly, even if the girl saw such a straightforward disclaimer, she still had to bump into it.
Her question is not only like the last story ("Girl, his disclaimer is so obvious, why are you in such a hurry?" The question of "whether to accept or not to accept" is even more a question of "not looking at what the other party is saying".
Looking at this chat record, we all have the feeling that the girl is talking to herself.
In particular, she said in the last paragraph, "I want to be a tree in my next life, and I want to be the home of all kinds of small animals. if you pass by in the next life, you can enjoy the cool under this very big tree. I will give you the thickest shade."
In this case, if she is in love with each other, the two of them will be affectionate words no matter how nasty they are.
However, the scene of this remark is that the other party has already said that they do not want to be together and do not want to hurt her, and then she talks to herself again.
The hostess is more like a girl who has a strong sense of being a young girl, does not accept the facts and likes to fantasize.
When two people chat, the key point is to see what each other is saying, and the content of the conversation should be connected together, rather than talking to each other.
If only one person writes a small composition there, he will lose the value of dialogue.
Sometimes, many people confuse diaries with conversations.
This girl, if she really thinks so, it is enough to write this sincere thought in her diary instead of throwing this pile of words into the other person's face.
If the other person can read out the implicit threat of "as if I can't live anymore, how am I going to die", he will be infuriated instead.
He may feel that he is threatening himself by talking so much.
In conclusion, it is obvious that both this man and this girl need great self-growth.
Two people are like fellow-townsmen, their eyes are full of tears, no matter whether they are high or low, they just meet each other.
But obviously, it is impossible for each of them to reach a balance with a very healthy person, not to mention that both of them have a lot of homework to do.
I suggest that two people split up and do their homework first.