Wen Xuan Xiaolei, Picture Network.
Almost everyone has a desire for expression, and the saying "keep a low profile and have capital" is also true.
But if you do not have the ability to charm, but also under the banner of low-key, it is a kind of cover-up, which is actually called obscurity or no one cares.
However, there is nothing wrong with obscurity, which is at least better than those who always want to show and express themselves.
Most of these people are also due to lack of self-confidence, driven by this inferiority complex, make great efforts to express themselves.
Of course, there are still some people who do not understand the situation, do not know their weight, are self-righteous or self-centered, so they need to be paid attention to and find some sense of existence all the time. .
I saw the peacock in the zoo and wanted to see it open the screen. I remember that it was said in the book that to make the peacock open the screen, just show the brightly colored scarf in front of it, and it would immediately unfold its beautiful tail to compare with the scarf.
So find something brightly colored to wave a provocation in front of the peacock, and this guy will soon hit the road.
This competitive spirit is not a good thing, because in the final analysis, this peacock mentality is related to vanity.
To get to the point, there are many women who cause trouble by showing off their beauty in front of their peers, showing off being loved and spoiled, or showing off their wealth, because jealousy is sometimes terrible.
So being competitive and showing yourself sometimes will not give you recognition and benefits, but will lead to trouble. .
Once upon a time, there was a colleague, Xiao Zhao, who was very high-profile and was always the one who loved to be in the limelight in a group of people. When there is a group activity, Xiao Zhao will tell him what to do for fear that he will not attract other people's attention.
In the network life, Xiao Zhao is the same, will make great efforts to attract everyone's attention.
For example, frequently update spatial dynamics, upload a large number of selfies, landscape photos or food photos, but also try to get some eye-catching interesting jokes or aesthetic pictures.
For a while, Xiao Zhao learned to write manuscripts with some friends on the Internet, and articles began to be published.
This made Xiao Zhao so overjoyed that she signed up for accounts on many social platforms and posted articles she had published everywhere. .
Then send the address to some friends, or send it to various groups to invite people to "appreciate", and then as soon as Xiao Zhao has free time, he will turn over his mobile phone and look at the computer.
He opens every platform every once in a while to see if anyone has been here. Is someone adding himself as a friend? Does anyone care about themselves? Did someone reply to comment, like and praise & hellip;&hellip.
Xiaozhao is like suffering from anxiety every day, frequently refreshing his dynamics, and when chatting with people he is familiar with or unfamiliar with, he also mentions his own achievements in a roundabout way. 、.
To this end, many people who commented and replied to Xiao Zhao's article were only ceremonial responses. After Xiaozhao felt this, she was also a little lost. .
Xiao Zhao's behavior is actually caused by inferiority complex. Or he thinks he is not good enough and there is no sense of security in his heart.
Or feel that people around them emphasize successful achievements, so they also want to prove that they are not bad, that they need people to pay attention to worship and respect, and that they want and like to have the effect of crowding the stars and the moon.
But such frequent praise of their own behavior will often outweigh the gain, and make themselves impetuous, ridiculed or bored behind the back of others.
The French philosopher Bergson once said: "Vanity is hardly a kind of evil, but all evil deeds revolve around vanity and are just a means to satisfy vanity."
In fact, people are more or less vanity, a little bit does not hurt elegance, but too much, there will be psychological imbalance, and lose themselves, lose their way. .
To solve this urgent need to express yourself, you only need to recognize yourself and understand that real gold, even if it is silent everywhere, will shine.
On the other hand, we should also learn and know how to appreciate our own achievements, correct our self-values, and correctly understand the connotation of honor and the true meaning of personality self-esteem.
Understand the meaning and value of your existence, do not always care about what others think of you, you will naturally feel at ease and calm.