Whether they are business leaders or jobless, why are men still restless when they get married? Let's also explore this world-class unsolved mystery.
Wen | Yang Tao.
Recently, Wu Xiubo cheated and sued a third party, Chen, so that Chen was imprisoned for fraud. On the day the incident was exposed, Wu Xiubo swept the abuse of "scum men" on the Internet.
At the end of the year and the beginning of the year, the three-month-old "Liu Qiangdong case" finally came to an end: the US prosecutor decided not to prosecute. Liu Qiangdong immediately posted an article on Weibo, admitted that the two sides had had sexual relations, made a statement, and apologized to his wife. Many netizens who supported Liu Qiangdong broke their glasses. Liu Qiangdong is a rich man on the Forbes list, the benchmark of success, the idol of how many entrepreneurs, and there is a beautiful wife and milk tea sister at home. why did you stumble in the pit of infidelity? .
Is it true that men are like Jia Mu in A Dream of Red Mansions: "like a gluttonous cat, where can you avoid being so different?" hellip;… "spectators are very confused: why the so-called" successful men "also cheat and act justifiably, and are not ashamed at all?
In our imagination, these successful male elites are probably a group of people who are extremely good at self-management. They must be very self-disciplined and know self-control and self-love; they must be so busy at work that they may not even have sex; they must love their families and wives like moral models, so how can they have sex with other women?
But we overlook one point: although they are successful, they are men and human beings, and they have to face pressure while holding success.
In the movie Wolf of Wall Street, a senior told a rookie stockbroker who has just entered Wall Street: "if you want to stay energetic on Wall Street, most men will choose to masturbate during their lunch break or do it directly in the office." The movie is a little too dramatic, of course, but it suggests that many working elites who work in high-intensity, stressful environments do like to use sex as a way to reduce stress.
A survey from a well-known e-commerce business shows that in the single item of sex toys, the purchasing activity of workers in Beijing's international trade area is significantly higher than that in Shijingshan area. ITC is the most active business district in Beijing, while Shijingshan is an old industrial zone with a slow pace of life. There is a positive correlation between people's sexual activity and work stress. Sometimes, people are looking for sex, probably just to reduce stress. The same is true of a successful man. We only see the successful side of him and do not see the tremendous psychological pressure on him for success. When the pressure has kept him in a state of tension for a long time, things will go to extremes. He was amazed that the sex out of control outside marriage made him wonder: why would I do that all of a sudden?
In addition, there are some men who are very immoral. They feel that if they do not steal a chicken, touch a dog or have an affair after a successful career, it is not in line with their successful identity. When they become bosses, their desire for control is overwhelming, and when they become more and more in control of the enterprise, employees and even themselves, they will also have a sense of illusion and arrogance that they can control everything: there is nothing impossible in the world, and there are no women who can't sleep. Having an affair is nothing. .
In this way, the "successful man" sex is out of control, the family is miserable, the business is also miserable. Because of the "Liu Qiangdong case", JD.com 's share price once plunged 60%, which was about the same level as when it first went public, and almost returned to pre-liberation overnight. Many people joked that this was probably one of the most expensive infidelities in history.
When successful men pay such a high price for losing control of their sex, proper sexual management is necessary. Gandhi once said that there is a higher purpose and more important things, so there is a need for proper abstinence, and for many successful men with ambitious goals, don't they also need to motivate themselves in the same way? There are thousands of ways to reduce stress, such as exercise, travel, cooking, singing & hellip;… always pursues sexual stress reduction and often walks by the river. where are there non-wet shoes?
Families hurt by sexual loss of control are more in need of cure, and for the wives of successful men, hiding and silence do not provide a solution to the problem, and they need to wake up from their husband's sexual loss of control: in fact, he does not fully understand the successful man at his bedside, and he still has emptiness, anxiety and unfulfilled desires in marriage.