"G O O D N I G H T"
One reader said that her ex-boyfriend was really strange.
A few months after breaking up, he got back together with his ex-girlfriend and posted a circle of friends with great fanfare, with the copywriter emphasizing that no one was blocked.
The girl was so excited that she wanted to delete him directly and felt that hellip; would feel itchy if she didn't look at the developments behind him.
Just leave him on Wechat and watch him share his love routine from time to time. Eating, driving, giving red envelopes to each other, in short, they are ordinary enough to catch a lot of lovers. She watched it with peace of mind, and slowly became less uncomfortable at first, until one day he shared a heartbroken song.
When the girl was thinking, "what's going on?" the boy talked about her privately and asked her how she was doing. The conversation was mixed with jokes and a little intimacy. It even lasted on and off for several days. After I got back in touch, the boy sent it late one night. In fact, sometimes I still miss you very much.
The girl said I had nothing to think about.
The boy said you were different from others.
The girl told me in a private letter that I admit that I really have an old affection for him. I have always been reluctant to leave him. I have never thought about what to do, but he has come to find and chat on his own initiative, and he has no way not to return, and there is no way not to think about it.
As a result, when the girl thought they were about to get back together, the daily update of the relationship in the moments that had been interrupted before began again. As a result, the boy never sent a message on his own initiative.
This has been the case several times before and after. The other person will create some signs of reunion at unexpected times for girls, saying, "you are special to me." But then there was nothing.
The girl asked, so what did he mean? .
I said that people cover up with their mouths and make real choices with their actions. No matter what he says, how much he misses you, how much he loves you, he finally runs away and is with someone else. That is his real choice.
The words in people's mouths are ever-changing, but what they really need is often clear.
When I had dinner with my friends in Lujiazui Center a long time ago, I said that there was such a man who was a few years younger than me and prettier than me. He flirted with me and seemed to imply that I would give him financial support, such as hellip;… living expenses.
The friend asked, did you give it? I said no. The friend asked if you were single, would you meet his requirements and maintain your relationship? I said no. When my friend asked why, I said that because I felt that he didn't pay much attention to it, I didn't care about the money.
I said I don't care if there is no money between two people, I care about whether the other person is sincere or not, and I don't care if the other person is really rich or not.
My friend is straight and likes to poke the scene. He says no, you think you don't care. In fact, I think you do care-deep in my heart.
He said: "one thing, although you say," I can, I accept ", but you did not make such a choice, that is already a" no "answer. It's like, there's a skirt in front of you, and you say, "it's a little expensive, but I like it very much," but you don't buy it in the end, and you don't take action, so you don't really like this dress. "
When I thought about it later, I thought it was right.
In fact, people's real attitude is to look at the action, and it is not a "performance" action-- for example, if you really want to be with you, it must be closely related to some actions, not to send flowers to your door, but to make a decision for you.
For example, you said that you would go to Suzhou after graduation, and after a while you found that he was already looking at the house and work in Suzhou.
If he just says, "I'll go wherever you go," but doesn't actually do anything, it's likely that he'll just say goodbye when he can't put it off any longer.
Like the beginning of the story, the boy said "miss you", said very beautifully, as if always thinking about her, but always find another one to get back together.
Obviously that other one is what he really wants. .
Many people have said that love depends on action. But not many people have made it clear that this kind of action is not an extremely small and easy thing to do such as "delivering breakfast" or "running with you".
The real action is that when a choice is in his interests, he is willing to choose you, and he is willing to take your position into consideration.
"for your sake" is not simply "you don't eat cilantro, he remembers better than you", but actually walks with you and really thinks about your life.
There is a word called "vote with your feet", which means that no matter what people say, the direction of action is the direction that a person really wants to go.
The relationship I have been in for a long time happens to be a period in which the other person's expression talent is extremely poor. Holiday greetings can only think of the degree of "Happy xx Day, be happy"-to be honest, I see other boys send affectionate essays to their girlfriends, they all feel like extraterrestrials: incredible, how can I come up with so many words to say?
But he always thinks of me, always thinks of me. Think about my career, think about the rest of my life, think about which city to settle in when he graduates, and think about what kind of job I can do in that city with my major, what my salary is, and what my future is.
So this is the person I decided to spend my life with.
People use their actions to make their own choices, sweet words can not be believed too much, because the weight is very light, it does not mean anything. Listen less to love words and seal your relationship with illusory promises. Remember to think about what kind of position you occupy at the other person's key points of life.
This is really important.