Recently, @ Chengnan Post Office issued a topic: why fall in love with similar people?
Because he even likes to listen to songs that have been hidden for a long time, the inconspicuous fly restaurant is also a delicacy that he can't put down, contributing tears to the same animation segment.
I am always infatuated with people who have a special understanding with me, and then fall in love with them in the process of keeping pace with me. If you don't stay for anyone, you can't help but stop in front of the mirror, because you can see yourself from inside. Maybe my favorite has always been myself. .
Some people in the comment area concluded that complementary people are easy to fall in love at first sight, similar people are suitable to grow old slowly, but some people object that similar people are only suitable for fun, and complementary people can grow old.
We all know that love trumps all truth. Principles are not worth it, but I am willing to do so. Sometimes love just doesn't make sense.
So, when you are in love, are you more likely to be similar or complementary?
I have read a sentence:
Similarity is to understand you, while complementarity is to take you to the unknown world.
When we are young, we always think that we are a semicircle, the other half is our missing link, complementary talent is a perfect match, we can work together to see a different world, so that we become more complete.
But in fact, each of us is a complete circle, and only two similar circles can move in step, resonate with each other, and go far away, even if they collide with each other because they are too similar on the journey. .
Chen Xiaochun and Ying Caier, a couple, can be regarded as mudslides in the entertainment industry.
Chen Xiaochun is famous for being a "prick". If he doesn't agree with each other, he can hold people back and keep a straight face to "frighten" children.
Ying Cai er is also a bad temper, temper up, to Chen Xiaochun nose is not a nose, eyes are not eyes, even because of dislike Chen Xiaochun always chirp, can directly slap him in the face.
The combination of the two, Chen Xiaochun himself described: "We can say that Mars hit the earth."
But it is such a "plastic couple", but let people see the most beautiful appearance of love.
When Ying Caier was unhappy, he was responsible for making her laugh. He became gentle and even learned to pretend to be pitiful.
When Chen Xiaochun heard that Ying Cai er and other men had used the same lipstick, he should sit and drink bravely, while Brother Pheasant, who has always been consistent, looked like a poor little daughter-in-law, in the tone of Xie Yuhua. To retreat into progress:
"No problem. I love you, but don't do this again, okay?" .
I can't help laughing at it.
Yes, similar to people who collide with each other, Mars collides with the earth, but Mars is short of water, and the earth has water, and the earth can splash some water to Mars to nourish it, so that it can last a long time and support each other for a long time.
It is often said that only those who complement each other can go further.
For example, a grumpy girl is to find a person who tolerates you in everything, your work, your trouble, no quarrel, no quarrel, plain and light, just like a way to live a life.
However, is surging really not as calm as water? How can we know that there is not a surging tide under the billowing surface of the water?
My friend Lesser Fullness of Grain has had two marriages.
She is quick-tempered, outspoken, daring to think and do things.
Her first husband was a famous local gentleman who wore glasses, spoke slowly and never clashed with others.
At that time, we all felt that the two men had complementary personalities and would certainly spend a long time.
But in less than a year, the two divorced, and everyone around her thought that she must have a bad temper and let her learn to change herself. .
But after the divorce, Lesser Fullness of Grain said to us like this:
"although he is very nice, he knows to give way to me and be considerate to me, not to mention chatting with me after work. I can't even quarrel with him. I can't change him, and I don't want to change him.
Moreover, I always wanted to make more money while I was young, but he felt that life was good now. Everyone else was a chicken baby, but I wanted a chicken husband. Later, I found that the chicken didn't move him. He was tired and I was tired. I was fine without everyone. "
Later, she met her current husband at work.
The second husband was a businessman who started his own business with a straight temper and a smelly face. He felt like he could collect debts at any time.
At first we all suspected that if the two men quarreled, they might be able to tear down their home, but Lesser Fullness of Grain hit it off with him, and there were always endless topics after they got together.
Think in one place, work hard in one place, grasp both family and career, and live a lively life, even if you quarrel, the more you quarrel, the more affectionate you are, and the sweeter you are.
Because they know that no matter how much they quarrel, their hearts are always together. .
Of course, there is indeed no shortage of complementary couples in our lives, but think about it carefully: are those couples who seem to be poles apart but grow old because they just complement each other?
Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang are crazy and gentle. On the surface, they seem to be one at the equator and the other at the North Pole.
But in their bones, the background colors in their souls are similar. .
The same talent, the same principle, bottom line, integrity, even the attitude towards life, but also from the heart of love, can get out of the trough, can also survive the winter.
After all, a smart man like Qian Zhongshu and a woman who has experienced ups and downs for decades must be neck and neck with him.
And through the years together, their behavior is becoming more and more similar.
Qian Zhongshu, who was crazy before, became softer and softer than Zhang ailing and Lu Xun, while the gentle Yang Jiang also learned Qian Zhongshu's humor and teased her wedding with Qian Zhongshu many years later: